In recent years, it seems that all our dating stories have started to sound almost identical: conversations that quickly turn into disappointment, deep sighs and far too much drama for something that’s supposed to be enjoyable.
What was once an exciting, light and anticipation filled experience has become an exhausting process, full of bad habits, confusion, and unrealistic standards.
Looking at today’s dating reality exposes several behaviors that have become far too common and probably sabotage all of our chances for a relationship.
- Ghosting has become the norm
Almost everyone experiences it: a conversation that lasts weeks and then disappears, a date you set up followed by complete silence, or even a last minute cancellation without explanation.
It may seem easy but it always hurts and is always unnecessary.
Since no one likes to be dragged into it, maybe it’s time to stop doing it to each other.
- Hot and cold games
Dense messages one day, silence the next, then a return as if everything is normal.
Push and pull games have become a common tactic but also a recipe for frustration.
Why has it become so scary just to show interest
- Date inflation
Apps have made the first date simple and quick, maybe too much.
Many go on several dates a week some report seven or eight dates in a single week and in such a situation, it’s hard to get excited about a single meeting.
When the abundance is too great, dates become products on an assembly line and lose their charm.
- Lazy communication
Everything starts well, then the conversation falls into a loop of “How are you?”, “What are you doing today?”, “How was your day?”.
Worst of all: a whole day without a message even though you scheduled a date that evening. Many people experience this as disrespect or the beginning of ghosting.
- Lots of messages but zero dates
Some app based connections turn into long conversations, sometimes weeks or months without a single meeting.
Even when interest is mutual, arranging the date doesn’t happen, drags out or falls through.
In the end? It simply fades.
- Excessive pickiness that doesn’t match reality
Standards are allowed and even desirable, but sometimes the list becomes excessive: zodiac sign, hair color, number of previous relationships everything becomes grounds for rejection.
Yet many people find that they abandon all “rules” when they are truly excited about a specific person.
- Love bombing – then disappearance
Some know how to create a rapid sense of closeness: morning and night messages, constant attention, pet names, endless compliments.
Until one day it simply… disappears.
Love bombing has become a common and frustrating phenomenon.
In conclusion
Perhaps the problem is not only technology or timing but ourselves.
We invest a lot in analyzing, filtering, and finding flaws, and much less in truly getting to know someone, giving a chance, and committing to the process.
Maybe instead of taking everything too seriously or not seriously at all, it’s time to bring some fun, curiosity and lightness back to dating.