No one in their right mind would ever say that dating is easy. Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is a task that can leave you wondering if it’s all worth it. The reward for putting yourself through the meat grinder is everlasting happiness. At least that’s the hope, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. Why do your relationships have a way of fizzling out before they catch fire? That’s what we’re going to talk about here. It’s all about the law of attraction and how it impacts your dating life.
It all began long before you ever realized it
Our ability to become attached to someone comes from our childhood. If a person wants to predict how a person will react while in a relationship, all they have to do is look at their date’s childhood. It’s not the easiest thing to do if you don’t know the person beyond meeting them at an online dating site or app. If you know the person since you were a child, then it’s possible to look back at their life and determine how it will be when you date them. Children who aren’t able to attach become adults who can’t. It couldn’t be any more simple than that. An adult is nothing more than a grown-up extension of a child’s life. If your date had issues with attachment when they were a child, it’s going to carry over to them in adulthood.
What does it mean when your date has issues with attachment?
Here is the problem that most people don’t see, and it ends up making them think less of the person. So, you date someone, and they break it off after only a few months. It seems like everything is going well, and all of a sudden, things change. You might think that the person was using you for something or had another motive for dating you. The truth may be far sadder than you realize, and it could be that your date can’t attach to you. Both men and women go from relationship to relationship not because they’re promiscuous, but because they can’t attach. It’s not that they want to sample all the fish in the sea, which keeps them from getting tied down. The person can’t form a bond with people because of the law of attraction. They can’t attach to you or anyone else for that matter. It means that they will live a life without the type of stability that most people find comforting.
Don’t get attached until you know the other person is serious
How do you avoid getting hurt when dating someone who has attachment issues? You avoid getting too attached to them before knowing if this is going to be a problem. What else can you do? There’s nothing else that you can do to prevent yourself from getting hurt when the person you’re dating wants to split. How long should you wait before taking the relationship seriously? If a magic number existed, we’d live in a perfect dating world. You’ll know in your heart if things are going too fast and you need to slow them down. If you don’t, and the person decides to call it quits, then your feelings will get pummeled, and your life could potentially be wrecked.