You have a match with someone on an app.
He does not stop writing and complimenting you.
Even on the date itself he does not disappoint: he makes you feel like you are the most special woman he has met, But after one or two more dates, while you are already planning where you will go on vacation, his enthusiasm suddenly fades: he barely calls or even disappears completely.
What happened? Most likely you became a victim of “Love Bombing”.
“A” says: “The current dating world, mostly based on apps, has also brought many new and frustrating phenomena.
Most of them arose due to the illusion of abundance: that there are many options and it is scary to commit to one because maybe there is a better one.”
Also, “Ghosting” (unilateral termination of contact without notice or explanation) is no longer alone on the scene.
What other unpleasant phenomena exist today? What are the warning signs?
Should you give a partner a chance if you spot such signs?
Love Bombing
What it is: He overwhelms you with compliments, attention and pampering then suddenly cuts off the relationship.
How it works: It is a relationship based on seduction tactics, Immediately after the initial match, the man maintains constant communication, full of compliments and great interest.
He knows exactly what to say and makes you feel this is a real chance for a relationship.
He asks to move from messaging to phone calls and then to a real meeting.
Even in the first dates, he continues to shower compliments, pamper and create a sense of intimacy. He opens up and casually hints at a shared future, for example, “on our first vacation abroad we will do this and that.”
Problem: The hint at a shared future is a tactic called Future Faking to quickly win over the partner, but without real coverage.
Within days or weeks, he starts distancing, causing deep confusion and she tries to draw him back. Usually, when she asks if something happened, he denies it, saying he is busy or tired.
In the end, he cuts the relationship or disappears without explanation.
Roasting
He breaks up with you and then sends a message detailing everything wrong with you.
How it works: It is a short relationship that ends suddenly, but with a detailed, critical explanation of why it ends.
He points out all unattractive traits, often ending with “because of this you are single.”
Warning signs: lack of self awareness, psychological projection, some are narcissistic or avoidant.
Orbiting
What it is: Even after breakup, he continues to follow you on social media.
How it works: He keeps liking posts, viewing stories, etc.
This confuses you emotionally and makes it hard to let go.
Warning signs: very hard to predict. If it bothers you, control your virtual space and unfriend him.
Bread Crumbing
What it is: He appears, asks how you are, then disappears. Repeats.
How it works: Messaging seems romantic but never progresses. Creates an illusion of a relationship and you may avoid meeting others.
Warning signs: conversation stops, messages sent at unusual hours.
Benching
What it is: The partner stalls the relationship, leaves you on the bench.
How it works: The acquaintance stage progresses, messaging is significant, maybe calls or real meetings.
But the relationship stops he just keeps you as an option.
Warning signs: inconsistent communication, last minute meetings, unclear intentions.
What to do: Clarify your feelings honestly and ask about his intentions. If he hesitates or defends himself, you are probably on the bench.